I'm looking for something to use in public, so it needs to be small and quiet. If it's got a remote that could go in my purse or in my partner's purse (no wires), that would be a major plus. I'm basically looking for clitoral stimulation, and the times that I've tried those hand-free butterflies, they've been useless (the leg things don't fit over my thighs and/or if they do fit, the butterfly sits way off base of where it's attention is needed!). So the item doesn't necessarily need to be like that. It could be a vibrating penetration toy that would be "propped" up in the panties so it's a little higher and sitting on the clit.